Background
This is a really exciting article series for me to write, because it is going to be the first of more than 100 articles we are carefully creating to help purposeful men learn how to date in Colombia.
Note: Every article you read on this website is from direct human perspective and will never be AI generated. This is because the perspectives we have to share do not already exist on the internet, are not commonly expressed by travelers on threads or even Redditors, and most who figure out the information we are sharing are living happy, undistributed, quiet, successful lives and they don’t really share this information with others. Why? Because they’re generally happy 🙂
So you’re working on the financial recommendation, doing the emotional pre-work, have a language learning option setup, a physical routine in place, and you’ve taken personal inventory on your spiritual state — then you’re ready for social preparation.
You could wait for everything to just happen in front of your eyes when you get to Colombia, and if you speak Spanish and you’ve got big public energy, it can. For the rest of us sigmas…
Platforms for Making Connections
The best social strategy is to start to connect in to people in Colombia a few months or a few weeks before your travel. How?
DatingInColombia.com Offerings
1. Courses. Our platform provides the safest way to not only learn about dating, but start to socially connect with authentic women who are teaching and instructing men how to date. We know them as friends. We’ve selected them and we co-create with them. They are us and we are they. So, when you download a course, you can follow up with your dating instructor and ask her further questions about DatingInColombia.com We literally are giving you the hook and sinker. Just find something from her course that you liked or have a question about, and slide in to message her about it, and start the conversation. She has friends. If you present as real, it’s likely she’s going to become a contact for you.
2. Concierge Travel. Once you have your Dream State and goals, there is just so much we can do for you socially to assist you in an authentic pursuit. Have specific goals and want to make sure you set it all up right on your first date? Consider us a wingman.
3. Members-Only Events. Want to meet up with a community on the beach? Have a bigger vision and don’t have all the connects? Want a couple buddies to explore nightlife with? We’ve got you.
Instagram and TikTok
You could go about social connection by searching for various places on Instagram, looking through the photos of who tagged themselves in those cities or places, and then beginning to invite people to follow/connect on Instagram. This is classic. Every attractive Colombian woman on Instagram usually has between 10-500 men who are following them for this very reason. It’s very likely they have met none of them, one of them, or just a few of them in person.
Keep in mind that the idea of following and connecting with a Colombian woman on Instagram, and even beginning a conversation and holding it for several weeks, does not mean you will ever meet that girl. In fact, you might find that after a few weeks of great conversation, she starts to say there’s a problem with her phone, her health, or her family and she needs you to send her money. Instagram is notorious for this. And, usually, the girl really does need money and you’ll have a lot more of it than she does. But as soon as you start to send her money, you’ll become 1 of 100 guys that might send her $20 that month. You’re now in a pool of men caught in a web, and you’ve immediately reduced your value and actually reduced your chances of ever meeting her in an authentic way. [Note: You’ve also attached to someone who isn’t looking for an authentic relationship and just knows the game. Through DatingInColombia.com you can avoid this.]
We have a discussion thread in our members section about how to connect with and begin dating a Colombian woman through a first connection on Instagram. It can be done. But it’s an expert or intermediate level difficulty that you’ve go to have a strong, competitive strategy for.
With TikTok, same goes for it like Instagram, but worse. You’re going to need to find a really good way to get her attention because there are thousands more interactions happening at the speed of light on this platform. Making meaningful conversation on TikTok and turning it into real friendships with an authentic woman is going to be needle in a haystack odds, but it can be done.
Dating Apps
- Tinder. By far the most popular way to connect with someone in Colombia. With Tinder gold, you can change your location and place yourself in the city you’re traveling to, ahead of time. But these days, there has been a massive amount of abuse through Tinder, especially in major cities like Medellin and Cartagena. You may think you’ve found someone real, but the conversation quickly changes 9/10 times. More and more women have taken to Tinder for the purpose of scamming unaware travelers, selling content, or directly proselytizing in annoying and unappealing ways that, if you’ve read this far, you don’t want anything to do with. There are ways to reduce the disillusionment on Tinder, identify the wrong connection before it happens, and we have dating courses and services at DatingInColombia.com for getting you setup for success on dating apps.
- Bumble. Much better than Tinder in terms of safety and real connection, but you ant to start using it about a month prior. You might also find that the women using Bumble are extremely untrusting of foreign men, because they started on Tinder, didn’t like what they were experiencing or how they were treated, and so they moved to Bumble. Enjoy a date with a woman and her brother? Due to safety concerns, this is happening more and more often through free dating apps in Colombia. Better recommendation: Get connected to our DatingInColombia.com community and let’s bring some community around you before you travel in.
Don’t Forget About Friends Back Home &
Don’t Let Them Forget About You!
Especially if you’re solo traveling, and definitely if you’re not fluent in Spanish — you want to do a few things at home before you travel to Colombia.
- Have a going away party. If you’re traveling out for a couple weeks with your buddies, this probably isn’t relevant. But if you’re working remote or pursuing some transformation, bring your real friends around you before you go and make sure they know you want to stay connected. There’s going to be times when you need a real friend back home. You might want to share your learning and growth, or just have a fluent English conversation where every word you say is at least heard and understood.Â
- Schedule calls with close friends or family a couple weeks ahead. It’s easier to see people when you’re in town. When you’re abroad, get calls on the calendar or touchpoint will likely never happen. Out of sight, out of mind. Don’t be so out of mind that you become disconnected from the valuable people you’ve grown with throughout your life.
- Go live or host a planned social media event with a video call link. Sometimes, just reaching people where they are at, on Facebook or Twitter Spaces, is a way we can gather friends and stay connected, with face-to-face synchronous conversation. There’s a certain aspect of wellness and confidence of seeing friends together and sharing some time.
- Bring them with you or invite them out! Sending pictures or videos back home and inviting your buddies to travel when they can, does help make it happen. Friends see the interesting things happening around you and it plants an idea. A few months from today, several of your close buddies might be buying their flights. You might be hosting a bachelor week in Cartagena. Just keep sending the visuals back home and you’ll be happily surprised when friends choose Colombia.
Need us to help you organize an event in Colombia? Members get access to concierge services and support during your travels to Colombia: hello@DatingInColombia.com
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